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I probably
do not fit
into the
preconceived
notion of a
"rebel". I
have no
visible
tattoos and
minimal
piercings. I
do not
possess a
leather
jacket.
In fact, when
most people look at me, their first thought usually is
something along the lines of "oppressed female."
The brave
individuals who have mustered the courage to ask me about
the way I dress usually have questions like: "Do your
parents make you wear that?" or "Don't you find that really
unfair?"
A while back,
a couple of girls in Montreal were kicked out of school for
dressing like I do. It seems strange that a little piece of
cloth would make for such controversy. Perhaps the fear is
that I am harbouring an Uzi underneath it.
Of course,
the issue at hand is more than a mere piece of cloth. I am
a Muslim woman who, like millions of other Muslim women
across the globe, chooses to wear the hijab. And the concept
of the hijab, contrary to popular opinion, is actually one
of the most fundamental aspects of female empowerment.
When I cover
myself, I make it virtually impossible for people to judge
me according to the way I look. I cannot be categorized
because of my attractiveness or lack thereof. Compare this
to life in today's society: We are constantly sizing one
another up on the basis of our clothing, jewellery, hair and
makeup. What kind of depth can there be in a world like
this? Yes, I have a body, a physical manifestation upon this
Earth. But it is the vessel of an intelligent mind and a
strong spirit.
It is not for
the beholder to leer at or to use in advertisements to sell
everything from beer to cars. Because of the
superficiality of the world in which we live, external
appearances are so stressed that the value of the individual
counts for almost nothing.
It is a myth
that women in today's society are liberated. What kind of
freedom can there be when a woman cannot walk down the
street without every aspect of her physical self being
"checked out"? When I wear the hijab I feel safe from all of
this. I can rest assured that no one is looking at me and
making assumptions about my character from the length of my
skirt. There is a barrier between me and those who would
exploit me. I am first and foremost a human being, equal to
any man, and not vulnerable because of my sexuality.
One of the
saddest truths of our time is the question of the beauty
myth and female self-image. Reading popular teenage
magazines, you can instantly find out what kind of body
image is "in" or "out." and if you have the "wrong" body
type, well; then, you're just going to have to change it,
aren't you? After all, there is no way that you can be
overweight and still be beautiful. Look at any
advertisement. Is a woman being used to sell the product?
How old is she? How attractive is she? What is she wearing?
More often than not, that woman will be no older than her
early 20s, taller, slimmer and more attractive than average,
dressed in skimpy clothing.
Why do we
allow ourselves to be manipulated like this?
Whether the
'90s woman wishes to believe it or not, she is being forced
into a mould. She is being coerced into selling herself,
into compromising herself. This is why we have 13-year-old
girls sticking their fingers down their throats and
overweight adolescents hanging themselves. When people ask
me if I feel oppressed, I can honestly say no. I made this
decision out of my own free will. I like the fact that I am
taking control of the way other people perceive me. I
enjoy the fact that I don't give anyone anything to look at
and that I have released myself from the bondage of the
swinging pendulum of the fashion industry and other
institutions that exploit females.
My body is my
own business. Nobody can tell me how I should look or
whether or not I am beautiful. I know that there is more to
me than that. I am also able to say "no" comfortably then
people ask me if I feel as though my sexuality is being
repressed.
I have taken
control of my sexuality. I am thankful I will never have to
suffer the fate of trying to lose/gain weight or trying to
find the exact lipstick shade that will go with my skin
colour. I have made choices about what my priorities are and
these are not among them. So next time you see me, don't
look at me sympathetically. I am not under duress or a
male-worshipping female captive from those barbarous Arabic
deserts. I've been liberated.
Sultana
Yusufali was a 17 year old High School student at the time
of writing this article.
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